Why
do we Procrastinate?
by Sharmen
Lane, Self Improvement and Success Expert
How
often do we put off until tomorrow what can
be done today? You know you should clean out
the closet, or study for the test or prepare
your will or trust. However, you find a gamut
of other things to do instead. There are many
reasons that we as human beings procrastinate.
Here are the most common.
- Anxiety.
Do you have anxiety about what needs to be
done and that is why you are putting it off?
Typically anxiety is directly related to the
beginning or the ending of a task. That’s
usually because what needs to be done, seems
overwhelming or frightening. How many times
do you put off doing your taxes? Is that because
the actual process of doing your taxes is
too challenging or too difficult? Another
good example is situations like having an
elderly parent knowing there are certain things
that need to be dealt with and you really
don’t want to face it. It’s something
you’d rather push back to the dark corners
of your closet and not deal with it. But rarely,
does this work in our favor.
-
Failure. Another reason people procrastinate.
Are you not doing what you know you should
do because you expect you may fail? Is it
safer and easier to say you didn’t get
what you want because you didn’t try?
What’s the alternative? To say you didn’t
get what you want because you did try but
failed? I believe that it’s better to
have tried and failed than to never have tried
at all. Don’t you waste more mental
energy thinking about doing something as opposed
to just doing it?
- Success.
Yet another reason people procrastinate. Many
will not do what they are capable of doing
because they know it will result in success.
Success is heavy and carries a responsibility
with it. Are you nervous or unsure about the
responsibilities you will have if you reach
your goal? Is the reason you aren’t
taking action?
- Perfectionist.
Perfectionists tend to take no action if they
can’t do it perfectly. I have seen people
who have absolutely disaster-ous home improvement
projects both inside and outside that haven’t
been finished. So the inside of their kitchen
may be half ripped out and not functioning
but they won’t do anything to fix it
until they have the plans just perfect, down
to every last detail. This makes no sense
to me. Why would you rather live in complete
and total chaos than make the situation decent
and livable?
- Resistance.
Yet one more reason people put off what needs
to done. If you are being required
to do something that you do not want to do
or do not see the value in, you may put it
off until the very last possible moment or
permanently if you can get away with it. Many
times with school or work you have to do things
you really don’t want to do. You have
to take prerequisite classes for school or
you have to sit through an HR presentation
at work even though you have been there for
10 + years and never had an HR problem. You
don’t want to do any of these
things. They are annoying nagging things you
need to do, but you put them off because
there are plenty of things you want
to do that are far more appealing.
The
most common denominator here is fear. Pushing
it off or procrastinating is only going to make
matters worse. If there are consequences to
something those consequences are still going
to be there when you finally get around to facing
them and they will likely get worse the longer
you put it off. Ask yourself, “What am
I afraid of,” and then deal with it. Many
times, if not always, things are worse in our
head than reality ever turns out to be. Just
be honest and admit the fear, deal with it,
get past it and step up and live your life NOW!!!
If something doesn’t work out the way
you want it to, it’s ok, you can now move
on to something else.
About
the Author:
Sharmen
Lane is an Author,
professional
speaker, radio
host, and self
improvement expert. She
has trained, managed, and coached thousands
of individuals on what it takes to get what
they want. Sharmen
offers you step-by-step solutions
to everyday problems that complicate our lives.
Sharmen wrote the book titled “The
7 Secrets to Create Your Fate”, which
is a personal growth, self development book
written to give everyone who reads it the motivation,
inspiration and determination to go after what
they want with passion. For more self
help resources and seminar
speaker topics, visit www.sharspeaks.com.
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