I like to keep
life simple. There are enough things in life
that I can’t control or influence, that
are complicated enough so I say keep it simple
where you can. That is why I wrote the book
titled The 7 Secrets to Create Your Fate. What
you are about to read is the cliff notes, if
you want the full version you can get the book
at your favorite bookstore or online at Borders,
Barnes and Noble, or Amazon.com. You can also
get it on my website or you can download the
audiobook or ebook on my website www.sharspeaks.com.
Step
One: Knowin’ Where You’re
Goin’ The first step to success is to
know what you want. This means if you don’t
know where you want to go, you will likely end
up somewhere else. Think about the optimal desired
end result. When you know where you want to
go write it down. And that is all there is to
step one.
Step
Two: MAP’in. MAP stands for make-a-plan.
Just knowing where you want to go won’t
get you there. Antoine de Saint-Exupery who
was a Writer, Pilot and World War II hero said
a goal without a plan is just a wish. Just like
driving or going on a trip somewhere. If you
don’t have a MAP or a set of directions
to get you from here to there, you are likely
to have a very long and bumpy ride. If you fly
by the seat of your pants, you better expect
turbulence. Put together some basic step by
step instructions to get you from here to there.
That doesn’t mean be rigid and not be
willing to change them around here and there,
but any successful person will tell you that
success is achieved in planning.
Step
Three: Passion Equals Action. If you
are passionate about what you want then you
will take action to get it. If you find yourself
not “doing” anything to reach your
goal then you likely don’t have a strong
desire to obtain it. Perhaps you are doing it
to meet the expectations of someone else or
you are living someone else’s dream. You
don’t have to have passion for what you
want but it certainly helps to keep your momentum
going and get you through those tough or trying
times. Give some thought to the things you are
passionate about. Think about the perfect job
for you and how could spend your day doing something
you love and be excited to get up in the morning
and go to work. It’s amazing how work
doesn’t so much feel like work when you
are doing what you love and have passion for.
Step
Four: Lessin’ Your Stressin’.
Most people get stressed out when they are giving
their time and attention to one of two things,
the past or the future. If you take a deep breathe,
slow down and get present, you will lessin’
your stressin’. When you get in the moment
you are better able to resolve issues because
you are dealing with reality. Now is reality,
tomorrow is fiction. It’s fiction because
it doesn’t exist yet so don’t project
into tomorrow. Whatever you are thinking about
is not real its just your imagination about
what might come next. That makes it fiction
not reality. Right now, write down what needs
to be done, that’s called a things to
do list. Then do the things on the list most
important first and least important last. Simply
staying in the moment and writing a things to
do list will lessin’ your stressin’.
Step
Five: Say Farewell to Fear. There are
two types of fears in this world. Real fears
and fake fears. Real fears are things that could
literally cause you physical harm or death.
Fake fears are things that only exist in our
head. For example, fear of rejection is a fake
fear. Rejection is a matter of perception. Fear
of Failure is another fake fear. There is no
such thing as failure. You likely learned something
from the experience, so it was an opportunity
to learn, not a failure. One way to know if
you are being held back due to a fake fear is
ask yourself these two questions. Could “x”
cause me physical harm? Could “x”
cause me to die? Chances are the answer to both
those questions is no and if that is the case
you are looking at fake fears. You really have
nothing to lose so, take a deep breath and just
do it!
Step
Six: What You Believe Is What You’ll
Receive. If you say you can or you say you cant
you’re right! Think about the things you
say or the thoughts you have. Are they empowering
or destructive? If you believe you can do something
then it is far more likely that you will achieve
it. However, the same goes for those negative
can’t do thoughts as well. To help you
believe you CAN have what you want create what
I call a visual map. Cut out picture of a house
and put a picture of you in the window. I have
a check for $1 million from a publisher. I took
a real $100 check I’d received and added
some zeros by matching the font on my computer
and printing it out and pasting it. Then I made
a copy and hung it over my bed so it’s
the first and last thing I see every day. Now
that you can see, you will believe it!
Step
Seven: Manifest Your Best. Do your
best every single day. Always give 100% of what
you are capable of. Something to help you is
what I call the 3 C’s to Succcess. They
are Commit, Communicate and Create. Get committed
to what you want. Think of it as a legal binding
agreement. Once you take that approach you will
know if you are really in, or not. If not, that’s
okay but at least you can move on to something
that you really do want. Once you decide that
you are 100% committed then you communicate.
Tell everyone you know what you are doing. Write
it down, read it out loud, tell other people,
email them, fax them, etc. The more people you
tell about what you are working towards the
more accountable you will be. If you keep it
quiet and to yourself, you are setting yourself
up for failure. Why would you not tell anyone?
So that when you don’t reach it, you don’t
feel like an oaf. You will work much harder
to reach your goal if everyone you know, knows
about it.
And those are
The 7 Secrets to Create Your Fate. They are
fast, simple steps to help you reach your goal
and be, do and have everything you ever wanted!
