Fear is the number one barrier that stops us from getting what we want. However there are really only two types of fears. Real fears and fake fears. The saddest part is that fake fears are what hold us back far more than real ones.

What’s the difference? A real fear is something that can cause physical harm or death. A fake fear is something that only exists in your mind and can change depending on your perspective.

For example, real fears are things like Ophidiophobia or Arachnophobia which are better known as the fear of snakes or spiders. These are things that could cause you physical harm or death. That would be a real fear.

On the flip side, you have fake fears. These are things that only exist in our minds. Things like fear of failure, success, rejection, etc. These things will not cause you physical harm or death. You will not suffer any injuries and you won’t die. You won’t end up in the hospital if you fail at something. Essentially nothing bad happens. So why is it that things like fear of failure or rejection hold us back from getting what we want?

Ego. Ego is the reason things like failure and rejection stop us from making progress or working towards our goal. Silly if you think about it, isn’t it? Why would you not work towards something even if you might fail? So what if you fail. Failure is just a matter of perspective. In my mind there is no such thing as failure. There are only results. If I don’t get the results I want then I need to do something different. Maybe I need to practice harder or more often. If I don’t get the results I’m looking for I’d bet I learned something along the way. That’s called learning and I simply will not believe that anything learned is a waste. Lessons are lessons and the important thing is to learn them.

If you find that you are not getting the results that you want, not making progress or are not taking any action at all towards a goal, ask yourself what you are afraid of. No matter what the answer is, ask the next two questions. Will this cause me physical harm? Will this cause my death? Likelihood is the answer is no. So step up to the plate and swing. What do you really have to lose? Honestly, the only thing you have to lose is the opportunity to get exactly what you want.

About the Author:

Sharmen Lane is an Author, professional speaker, radio host, and self improvement expert. She has trained, managed, and coached thousands of individuals on what it takes to get what they want. Sharmen offers you step-by-step solutions to everyday problems that complicate our lives. Sharmen wrote the book titled “The 7 Secrets to Create Your Fate”, which is a personal growth, self development book written to give everyone who reads it the motivation, inspiration and determination to go after what they want with passion. For more self help resources and seminar speaker topics, visit www.sharspeaks.com.