Three
Tips to better decisions
by Success
Expert Sharmen Lane
Have
you ever done something just to later look back
and wonder “what was I thinking?”
I know I have and I’m pretty sure everyone
has at some point in their lives. You know the
old adage, hindsight is 20/20. Or, how about
“if I knew then what I know now I would
have done things differently.”
What
if I told you that there is a sure fire way
to make better decisions? Do you think that
could change your life? Here’s the thing,
I can’t change your life for you. I can
only give you the tools so you can change your
own life, but ultimately you are the one that
must do.
Every
choice we make has a consequence. Sometimes
the consequences are good and sometimes they’re
not. More importantly, sometimes we don’t
realize or think about our choices or decisions
until the damage is done. At which point we
have to suffer the consequences which later
leads to regret. How can you learn to exercise
better judgment without making painful mistakes
that could have been avoided in the first place?
Here
are three things you can do to make better decisions.
1.
10 second rule- Before you react to anything
stop and count to ten slowly. This means when
someone says something that you want to rip
their head off for just stop. Inhale for a
count of five and exhale for a count of five.
Just that right there will have elevated your
consciousness and provided you with the opportunity
to respond wisely versus reacting emotionally.
2.
Video tape test- Before you engage in an act
that you might possibly regret later, think
about this. If your actions were caught on
videotape and sent to your mother would you
be proud? If whatever you are doing showed
up on YouTube or the evening news and everyone
you knew and everyone you didn’t know
were to see it, would you be embarrassed or
would you be proud? Sometimes we don’t
think before we do and then later wish we
could undo it altogether. But unfortunately,
you can’t undo the past but you can
make better choices in the present by being
present.
3.
Child test- Many times we don’t have
our best interest in mind. Many times we don’t
hold ourselves in high regard. How can we
learn to respect ourselves? Try this. Before
you instantly say yes or no or allow someone
to treat you badly, ask yourself “would
this be good enough for my child?” Even
if you don’t have or want children this
method can help. Somehow we as human beings
accept less or allow things that would never
be acceptable our child. Be your own parent
and nurture your own inner child. Then decide
if what you are doing or allowing is acceptable
for you.
If
you utilize these three tools I guarantee you
will make better choices, have more proud moments
and far fewer regrets.
For
more Information visit www.sharspeaks.com.
About
the Author:
Sharmen
Lane is an Author,
professional
speaker, radio
host, and self
improvement expert. She
has trained, managed, and coached thousands
of individuals on what it takes to get what
they want. Sharmen
offers you step-by-step solutions
to everyday problems that complicate our lives.
Sharmen wrote the book titled “The
7 Secrets to Create Your Fate”, which
is a personal growth, self development book
written to give everyone who reads it the motivation,
inspiration and determination to go after what
they want with passion. For more self
help resources and seminar
speaker topics, visit www.sharspeaks.com.
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